Are there dating events in London for people in their 30s and 40s?

Yes. Lunaire and other curated event series host dating nights specifically tailored for people in their 30s and 40s who are looking for real, in-person connection without the awkwardness of apps or speed dating.

What makes a good dating event for people in their 30s or 40s?

Balanced energy, age-appropriate guests, and an environment designed for conversation—not chaos. Lunaire events focus on curating rooms where everyone is aligned in mindset and intention.

Where can I find curated dating nights in London?

You can find curated dating events through brands like Lunaire, supper clubs, private member-led events, and interest-based socials hosted in intimate London venues.

Best Curated Dating Events in London for 30s and 40s

Lunaire
Aug 28
2 min read

TL;DR: If you’re in your 30s or 40s and tired of dating events that feel chaotic, transactional, or designed for a younger crowd, you’re not alone. More people are turning to curated, grown-up alternatives that prioritise comfort, balance, and connection. Here’s where to find them in London (and why they feel so different).

Dating in Your 30s and 40s Is Different

You’re not here to waste time. You’ve probably done the apps, the loud bars, the awkward speed dating rounds. And now?

You want something more considered.

Something that feels:

Grown-up, but not stiff
Warm, not chaotic
Subtle, not shouty

A room where people are emotionally available, self-aware, and open.

Why Most Dating Events Don’t Work for This Stage of Life

A lot of what's out there still caters to a younger, “just seeing what’s out there” crowd.

You show up, and:

The room skews early 20s
The energy is frantic or performative
The vibe is more party than connection

That’s fine, for someone else. But if you’re in your 30s or 40s, it just doesn’t land the same.

Two people chat animatedly in a dimly lit bar. Mirror reflects more people. Warm lighting creates a lively atmosphere.

What Curated Dating Events Offer Instead

Age-appropriate curation

You’re in a room where everyone is in a similar stage of life. Not just by age, but by mindset.

Balanced gender ratios

No more rooms with 30 men and 5 women (or vice versa).

Atmosphere that supports conversation

You can actually hear each other. There’s space to breathe. And it all just feels… easy.

People who are intentional

You’re not the only one looking for something meaningful. The room is full of people who get it.

Where to Find These Events in London

🥂 Lunaire (of course)

We host invite-only events specifically for people in their late 20s to early 40s. Our focus is on energy, not just age—but we design each night to suit the crowd. Expect hidden venues, warm lighting, and easy-flowing conversation.

🍷 Supper clubs & curated dining nights

These are increasingly popular with 30-somethings and up. Bonus points if there’s a host guiding the night gently.

🎨 Interest-led socials

Gallery openings, wine tastings, walking tours. When the activity isn’t “dating,” people relax, and that’s when chemistry sneaks in.

You Don’t Need a Dating App. You Need the Right Room.

When you're in your 30s or 40s, you don’t need a room full of random people.

You need a room full of people who listen.

People who show up for the right reasons.

People who’ve outgrown the game, but not the desire for real connection.

That’s what curated dating events offer. And in London? They’re finally becoming the new normal.

Want to see what it feels like to be in the right room?

LUNAIRE