Why More People Are Ditching the Apps, and What They’re Choosing Instead
- Lunaire
- Aug 28
- 2 min read
TL;DR: People aren’t just deleting dating apps out of frustration; they’re searching for better alternatives. From curated events to slower, more human ways of meeting, there’s a growing shift away from swiping culture. Here’s what’s replacing it, and why.
“I’m Done With the Apps.”
You’ve heard it. You’ve said it. And if you haven’t yet, you’ve probably felt the itch.
Because let’s be honest:
Most dating apps are exhausting
The conversations often feel transactional
The matches rarely lead to anything real
The dopamine hits aren’t enough anymore. People are realising that convenience isn’t the same as connection.
It’s Not Just Burnout. It’s Evolution.
We’ve gone from:
Chat threads that fizzle out
Bios that feel like résumés
Dates that feel like interviews
To something more grounded.
People are craving:
Eye contact
Energy
Effortlessness
That “you had to be there” feeling
They don’t want an app. They want a moment.
So What Are People Choosing Instead?
Here’s what’s rising as apps decline:
✨ Curated, Real-Life Dating Events
Like Lunaire. Where every guest is considered. Where there’s no swiping. No speed dating. Just a warm room of emotionally available people who want to meet, for real.
🍽️ Supper Clubs & Shared Experiences
Food, conversation, and a table of strangers. The chemistry shows up when you’re not looking for it.
🎨 Interest-Based Events
Gallery nights. Creative workshops. Fitness events. Real-world contexts where connection can happen organically.
🎧 Soft Social Spaces
Playlists over playlists. Low-lit cocktail bars. Events that feel like you’re walking into a dinner party, not a performance.
Why This Shift Matters
Because dating doesn’t need more features.It needs more feeling.
Apps optimise for volume. But humans aren’t made for endless choice.
We want:
Fewer, better conversations
Slower, softer momentum
A reason to look forward to the night—not just scroll through it
Lunaire Is Built for This New Way of Dating
No pressure. No pretence. Just real people, in beautiful spaces, with the time and freedom to connect.
You don’t need to collect matches. You need to be in a room where you can be yourself.
That’s what Lunaire is.
And that’s why people who are “done with the apps” keep finding their way to us.
If you're ready to move from algorithm to atmosphere, join the invite list
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